Kill the “What ifs”



It can be annoying at times, especially when you have to clean up after them.

But more than anything I admire it.

Nothing is off limits. The world is theirs.
If someone tells them no, they may cry for a minute, but soon they will be into something else.

Somewhere along the way as adults we loose that curiosity.
We lost the resolve to explore and conquer no matter what the costs.

If someone tells us “no”
We don’t cry and try something else.
We cry and never try anything else.


We become stagnant. And bitter.

My biggest fear (truly) is to one day be an old lady and look back wondering

why I didn’t do more….
why I didn’t take chance….
why I didn’t explore the world a little more.

Its okay to make mistakes.

Its okay to fail/fall/mess up/screw up/ rip up………… get the point.

Keep trying.

Kill the “What ifs”

(Flashback Friday- Originally Posted on March 31, 2014)


When You Fail.

“If it doesn’t work…”
I think that’s the underlying fear of most people. That’s why we discourage one another, and discourage ourselves. It all comes down to the fear of failing.

Here is a thought for you today.

If it doesn’t work.
If you fail.
If you give your all, and it just doesn’t happen.

Oh well.

That’s not meant to be apathetic. In fact its just the opposite. The person you became, the character you built, to be brave enough, consistent enough, to even try….is worth the possibility of “failing”.


Most people will never try. Most people are not willing to accept the criticism of their family.  Most people aren’t willing for the investment. However…If it doesn’t work, at least you tried. At least you know.

You are left  in a better position to try and succeed at something else. Because you have built the momentum, techniques, and will power to … even try.

I applaud not only the ones who are “succeeding” but the ones who trying. One day those people will make it, will succeed, and all their critics will be eating their words for lunch, and maybe even for dinner too.


If you temporally fail…if the certain path doesn’t work..
oh well.
Start a new path. Nothing was lost. Character was gained.


Choose Wisely

You become who you hang around. Literally.

Its hard, because you develop relationships with people, and sometimes you truly love them.
However, sometimes for the sake of you, you have to say goodbye.

You cannot change people, and you shouldn’t.
That’s the job for Someone else with much greater power than you and I.


Its all about having standards.
In order to grow we have to have standards, things we hold ourselves accountable to. Lines drawn that we will not cross, and dreams and aspirations that we are reaching for.
The people you surround yourself determine, literally if those boundaries will be crossed, and if those aspirations are ever reached.

They are the voices that have the strongest influence. They give you fuel, or they drain you.
You should love people. You should care about them, give to them, and believe in them.
But your inner circle, needs to be chosen carefully and intentionally.

Your friends don’t just share in your story, they help write it. So its worth looking around you, and deciding who you want to become.


Have you been ever asked the question, “Soooo, What do you do?

You are suppose to respond to one occupation and leave it at that.

I am a lawyer.

I am a business owner.

I am a graphic designer.

I am a stay at home mom.


When I get asked this question I often feel pressured to “sum me up” in a sentence.

Well you know what? I can’t.

And I don’t want to.


I don’t think we were meant to be labeled as one thing or another…and we definitely aren’t meant to throw some desires away and keep others.

This is where a lot of pressure comes in for people to PICK SOMETHING! Pick something you love and run after it. I WHOLEHEARTEDLY believe in this. I believe real desires provoke action. You have to put feet on your words.


People often don’t pursue anything…because they can’t find that “one thing”.

I just am not sure there is…one thing….for everyone. Maybe many things interest you. You can LOVE your business and still dream about doing this or that one day. That’s okay.


Have you ever noticed that “starters” (people who put actions to their words) often have multiple projects going? My friend Brittany has a very successful business. She loves it. But on the side she opened up another business that had nothing to do with the first one. Does that mean she doesn’t love the first anymore? Nope…she has just discovered the joy of seeing outward manifestations of the desires she has inside of her. I’m sure as the years go on…she will start more things…and more things.

We have a small group of entrepreneurs/artists/writers who meet a couple of times a month for accountability/brain storming/and goals. Guess what? The longer the person is in the group…the harder of a time they have to “label” themselves. Because we (usually) aren’t one desire. We are a whole lot of things. 

Try new things, start new things. If something fails. Who cares?

We have to stop apologizing for who we are. If something we like or enjoy makes no sense to some one else- whoopty freakin do. Go after it anyway. If you are a successful doctor and you want to start a side business making kids hair bows…go for it. We don’t have to have permission slips from everyone else to do what we want.

I believe desires, dreams, gifts are placed inside of us for a reason. Not to torture us of what we should of been….but push us towards being. Now.

You are not a sentence. You are not a word. The part I love about this life/world is its meant to be explored and experience. Not one corner of it…but the whole thing.

And we were meant to be fully engaged in this one…life…we have.



I Will When

My life has been kinda cra cra lately. Not crazy…. straight up cra cra.

And I haven’t “found” the time to do somethings that I want to do. Its like I am maintaining my life instead of pursuing it.


I have to tell my self constantly that time will remain the same, things wont necessarily get easier and I wont find some “extra minutes” under the couch somewhere.

At some point we need to say no to our current task…(that never ending one you have…that you could spend hours doing and still not finish)

And GIVE time to pursue, to create, to thrive.

Some of us have to work, to pay bills. Have to study, to get the degree.

There are things we “have to do” . Obviously.

But we  also have to GIVE time for those pursuits and passions that are inside of us. They will never come about if we wait for “the time to do them”.

Don’t be okay with pushing those things to the side. They are the ones that bring satisfaction and purpose to your life. They are why you are here on earth.

We weren’t meant to dread our days. Give time to the things you love, the person you want to be.


More than “okay” with change

Things are going to change….its inevitable.
To be who we need to be ….we have to be more than just “okay”with change.
We need to want it.
Embrace it. Look for it.


Most people hate change. They want whats comfortable and easy.

Growth is change.

So if you hate change, you actually hate growth.

I may have to move.

 I may have to change my mind.

I may have to meet someone else.

I may have to stop something.

I may need to do something.

Do what it takes.


Be more than okay with change.

Little Things Add Up

I made two lists today. One was shorter than the other.

The first list consisted of what my priorities were
(a condensed version of my overall “dream/goal” for my life).

The next list was about twice as long. This list was what I was involved in
(all the “side” projects). It consisted of a bunch of little things…that added up to WHOLE lot of things.


I don’t think our problem is knowing what we want with our lives….
but knowing how to stay focused and loyal to it.

If I want to be a painter, but do not paint, because I am “too busy” ….will I ever become one?
If I want to be a writer but spend time in random projects that do not further me in this pursuit…who is to blame?

Should we abandon everything that does not specifically involve our pursuit in life? Of course not…

I am just starting to notice that a bunch of little things add up.
These things claim my life.
And the distractions are not to blame.
I am.

We have choices.

Our lives are about what we give priority to. What we fight for.
What we don’t give up on.
Apart of fighting for something is defending it against all others.

Say no to the little things, so you can say yes to the big ones.