Fear Problem = Love Problem

Perfect Love Drives Out Fear. @1john4:18

When faced with fear sometimes I feel like I have to find enough will power to fight it on my own. Like I need to try harder….face fear…and hopefully win the fight.

If we sought loveperfect love in our lives….fear would run.

It would hide.

It would be cast out.

Driven out.

And shaking.


See we don’t have to fight fear with our bear hands. We need to walk in the perfect love that comes only from God.

Fear is the opposite with Love. If we have a problem with fear…we are having a problem with Love. Seek it out. Fear will flee.


Kill the “What ifs”



It can be annoying at times, especially when you have to clean up after them.

But more than anything I admire it.

Nothing is off limits. The world is theirs.
If someone tells them no, they may cry for a minute, but soon they will be into something else.

Somewhere along the way as adults we loose that curiosity.
We lost the resolve to explore and conquer no matter what the costs.

If someone tells us “no”
We don’t cry and try something else.
We cry and never try anything else.


We become stagnant. And bitter.

My biggest fear (truly) is to one day be an old lady and look back wondering

why I didn’t do more….
why I didn’t take chance….
why I didn’t explore the world a little more.

Its okay to make mistakes.

Its okay to fail/fall/mess up/screw up/ rip up…………..you get the point.

Keep trying.

Kill the “What ifs”

(Flashback Friday- Originally Posted on March 31, 2014)

When You Fail.

“If it doesn’t work…”
I think that’s the underlying fear of most people. That’s why we discourage one another, and discourage ourselves. It all comes down to the fear of failing.

Here is a thought for you today.

If it doesn’t work.
If you fail.
If you give your all, and it just doesn’t happen.

Oh well.

That’s not meant to be apathetic. In fact its just the opposite. The person you became, the character you built, to be brave enough, consistent enough, to even try….is worth the possibility of “failing”.


Most people will never try. Most people are not willing to accept the criticism of their family.  Most people aren’t willing for the investment. However…If it doesn’t work, at least you tried. At least you know.

You are left  in a better position to try and succeed at something else. Because you have built the momentum, techniques, and will power to … even try.

I applaud not only the ones who are “succeeding” but the ones who trying. One day those people will make it, will succeed, and all their critics will be eating their words for lunch, and maybe even for dinner too.


If you temporally fail…if the certain path doesn’t work..
oh well.
Start a new path. Nothing was lost. Character was gained.


No Shortage of the Cautious.

Ohhhhhh fear.

When it comes down to it. That’s the “fuel” behind most people’s lives. We think we are self preserving…but we are really being wasteful.

Robbing ourselves of a full life…and trying to take everyone else down with us.

What a waste.

We spend so much time convincing ourselves of what we can’t do…..we end up thinking we are doing others a favor by telling them what they can’t do as well.


“There are three types of people in the world today. There are “well-poisoners,” who discourage you and stomp on your creativity and tell you what you can’t do.There are “lawn-mowers,” people who are well-intentioned but self-absorbed; they tend to their own needs, mow their own lawns, and never leave their yards to help another person.Finally, there are “life-enhancers,” people who reach out to enrich the lives of others, to lift them up and inspire them.

We need to be life-enhancers and we need to surround ourselves with life-enhancers.

~ Walt Disney

I just want to propose something as you go along in your day today.

There is no shortage of “reasonable” cautious people.

The person before you venturing out into the unknown will have hundred different voices predicting the hundred different ways they could possibly fail.

If you truly want to make a difference in someone’s life, be the one who says

“Go for it”.


How many biographies are written that credit the people in their life who discouraged them to consider why they couldn’t/shouldn’t?

No….credit is due to those who believed in them. Who shined light on their strengths. Reminded them that they could.

It’s really important to believe in yourself.

But true evidence of that will be displayed in how you believe in others.

#flashbackfriday post. Originally Posted April 11, 2014


People Pleaser

I have always had a problem with being a “people pleaser“. So much to the extent that it has caused me to make decisions that I now deeply regret and have altered my life to some extent.

I was thinking about it the other day and I really started to shift my view of what “people pleasing” really was.
We make it sound like its all about them. But really….its all about us.


What will they think if ME? Do they like ME? Do they approve of what I did? Am I good enough?
Its all about yourself and how YOU look.
Before I have always thought that beating being a people pleaser meant I needed to take other people off the pedestal.
No….I need to take myself off the pedestal.

It doesn’t matter how you are perceived. Be true to yourself. Be true to what you know to be right and wrong.Be exactly who you are and don’t worry about making yourself look good.

Pride is a root of being a people pleaser. Some one will always not agree with something you are doing. We cannot look good to everyone at all times. You will literally drive yourself insane.

Don’t place all your value on what other’s think of you.
Our lives are meant to be full and glorious.
There is not room for people pleasing.

(Flashback Friday) Originally posted  February 13, 2014


Tip Toe

“You see the heart and soul of someone in times of adversity”
I heard that quote the other day, and have been thinking a lot about it. I wanna help people, I want to have friends, and I want people to like me….you know, what most normal girls want. We are nurtures, almost to a fault.
If I focused solely on these desires (helping, having friends, people liking me) it would wear me down.

Although its not bad to want these things, they can put you in a position where you will sacrifice your authentic self to please someone else. If you have to explain yourself and defend yourself constantly, if you are the only one who has to maintain a relationship, it might be time to mosey on down the road.

You see someone’s true level of commitment to you, someone’s “heart and soul” in the times of adversity, when things aren’t as “fun” or easy…
Don’t surround yourself with people you have to tiptoe around. And don’t make people feel like they have to tip toe around you. Everyone has a bad day, but if its a consistent problem- you have to be honest about what the true source of insecurity is coming from. And that’s hard for us gals to admit. It might NOT be your friends fault…it might simply be your insecurity.
Give people the benefit of the doubt. And surround yourself with people who give YOU the benefit of the doubt, and don’t make you tip toe.

The Young

I’m young. At least I think I am. Some of the kids from church call me ma’am. And that makes me feel old. But…I try to forget about that.

Us young folks (I include myself in this!) have this creepy, strange ora about us. Its this sense of entitlement. That things are owed to us, that the world is meant to bow and severe.

News flash fellow youngins…
If you truly believe this… in 30 years you will be broke and miserable.

If I could do anything for this generation I would help them to discover a sense of responsibility. To understand that no one owes them ANYTHING. And yes, they should become everything that they want, but they need to work for it.
Its not about achieving a result, its about developing your character.
Results will follow.


You life is worth caring about.
Your life is worth working for.
You will never get to a point where you are “too good” to serve and work and be extremely humble. Everything can be taken from you in an instant.

They say that if you were to distribute the worlds wealth, evenly…to all people, within a few years it would be back in the hands of those who had it in the first place. To me, this means that character, drive, and WORK bear fruit.

Entitlement bears pain.
Because it is never satisfied and never fulfilled.
Laziness is sad.
Because it will bring true regret.
And apathy is to me…the most disturbing.
“Not caring” is not showing how strong you are, but how weak you are. Strength is caring deeply about life, taking a challenge, pursing, and thriving.

Its the issue of the future we are dealing with. We are the next set of leaders. And that shouldn’t be a scary thought.