Feministic

I feel like everywhere I turn there are woman protesting how “strong they are” and how much they “don’t need men”.  A lot of these gals call themselves “feminists”…but to me they are the furthest thing from. They are not promoting equality. They are promoting superiority. 

-This post may not be my most popular-

Thou hath been warned;))

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I don’t see how celebrating your gender, and believing in your own strengths and ability would detour you from actually……being female. Its like saying you are proud to be an American and detest everything patriotic.

Their logic is, “We are strong…so treat us like a man”. If women are really strong, why not treat us like women?

They also say…….”Men, we don’t need you, we can do your job for you”.

Nope. We can’t. We need men to stand up…and be there for their families, to take charge, and be real men. Not these passive, children abandoners that we have created. We emasculate them and then complain that there are no good men in the world

…..how could there be?

If you are truly for women, you would capitalize on the unique strengths given specifically to women. No, this isn’t always staying  at home with an apron (although there is NOTHING wrong with that). This could be being a CEO, or an artist, or a politician. Its not that we cant be something…its our attitude getting there that sucks.

There is nothing wrong with a man holding a door open for you. Its called being a gentleman. We have men raping, verbally abusing, beating women….and the few who have enough honor and respect to open doors and treat a woman like a lady…we take offense to that?

And a man SHOULD help move and carry things. Could we do it? Yes….but that’s their way of honoring us, not putting us down. In a world where men  are getting lazier and lazier… we should celebrate the men who take that initiative, instead of putting them down.

And being nice to men, and admitting that we need them is not being weak….its called being a decent human being.

So its not a question of “can’t”…its a question of honor and respect. We want men to honor and respect us. Sure, we should. But if our respect only comes at the expense of disrespecting them….we are actually showing how weak we are, not how strong. Its like a bully on the playground who can only get their power from weakening others.

You do not become stronger by tearing men down. And constantly doing so, and constantly letting them know how much you don’t “need them”…is showing how insecure you really are.

We do need them. And they need us.

I’m tired of dads leaving their kids. I am tired of men not having jobs, and no passion for their life. Its not all the women’s fault……but we do have a share in it.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                       And finally……

As women there is nothing wrong with nurturing, loving, and caring. Why do we not see that as powerful and strong? Is that ALL we are? No. But why are those characteristics  see as shameful?

Having the ability to completely transform the hearts and souls of those around us through our intuition and insight…is that not powerful? Having the ability to extend grace and show passion through our words and our demeanor…..is that not strong? Men don’t have those gifts.

So, no. I don’t want to be a man. 

I like being a woman. I like my unique contributions to this world, and I believe embracing that instead of shunning it is what a true “feminist” should be.

I’m done:)

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Taking a Step Back and Remembering Why

I don’t know if anyone has noticed….but I am kind of driven.

love medieval war movies and think it would be awesome to conquer the world some how.

I’m still working on the details for that one.

Although I do not want to change who I am (I believe I am this way or a reason). I want to make sure that I maintain balance and remember why I want to do certain things.

The whole point of it all is to place love and value on people.

And hopefully make a difference in someone’s life.

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It’s easy to say that “one day” when I have millions I will give millions.

But as thousands slip through our hands throughout the year are we still giving?

“When things slow down I would love to volunteer somewhere, …to serve”

When will things slow down? When we retire?

It’s good to want to do big things, I defiantly want to. But “big” things are made up of a whole lot of little things. Am I loving the person right in front of me….right now?

Am I giving when I see a need? Right now?

We are not guaranteed tomorrow. Do not wait to become who you want to be. Be faithful in the little now, place value in this moment, with these people….right in front of you.

I read this this morning,

“You may want to know your calling. Let this be your call: comfort a sad woman. Comfort a mourning child. Comfort a dying man. Comfort.” -Heidi Baker

Although I hope to one day do big great things, I have to remember all the great “little” things now. I believe that these little things heaven rejoices over and brings true glory to Jesus.

Flash Black Friday: Originally Posted on June 2, 2014

Fear Problem = Love Problem

Perfect Love Drives Out Fear. @1john4:18

When faced with fear sometimes I feel like I have to find enough will power to fight it on my own. Like I need to try harder….face fear…and hopefully win the fight.

If we sought loveperfect love in our lives….fear would run.

It would hide.

It would be cast out.

Driven out.

And shaking.

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See we don’t have to fight fear with our bear hands. We need to walk in the perfect love that comes only from God.

Fear is the opposite with Love. If we have a problem with fear…we are having a problem with Love. Seek it out. Fear will flee.

When You Fail.

“If it doesn’t work…”
I think that’s the underlying fear of most people. That’s why we discourage one another, and discourage ourselves. It all comes down to the fear of failing.

Here is a thought for you today.

If it doesn’t work.
If you fail.
If you give your all, and it just doesn’t happen.

Oh well.

That’s not meant to be apathetic. In fact its just the opposite. The person you became, the character you built, to be brave enough, consistent enough, to even try….is worth the possibility of “failing”.

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Most people will never try. Most people are not willing to accept the criticism of their family.  Most people aren’t willing for the investment. However…If it doesn’t work, at least you tried. At least you know.

You are left  in a better position to try and succeed at something else. Because you have built the momentum, techniques, and will power to … even try.

I applaud not only the ones who are “succeeding” but the ones who trying. One day those people will make it, will succeed, and all their critics will be eating their words for lunch, and maybe even for dinner too.

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If you temporally fail…if the certain path doesn’t work..
oh well.
Start a new path. Nothing was lost. Character was gained.

 

No Shortage of the Cautious.

Ohhhhhh fear.

When it comes down to it. That’s the “fuel” behind most people’s lives. We think we are self preserving…but we are really being wasteful.

Robbing ourselves of a full life…and trying to take everyone else down with us.

What a waste.

We spend so much time convincing ourselves of what we can’t do…..we end up thinking we are doing others a favor by telling them what they can’t do as well.

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“There are three types of people in the world today. There are “well-poisoners,” who discourage you and stomp on your creativity and tell you what you can’t do.There are “lawn-mowers,” people who are well-intentioned but self-absorbed; they tend to their own needs, mow their own lawns, and never leave their yards to help another person.Finally, there are “life-enhancers,” people who reach out to enrich the lives of others, to lift them up and inspire them.

We need to be life-enhancers and we need to surround ourselves with life-enhancers.

~ Walt Disney

I just want to propose something as you go along in your day today.

There is no shortage of “reasonable” cautious people.

The person before you venturing out into the unknown will have hundred different voices predicting the hundred different ways they could possibly fail.

If you truly want to make a difference in someone’s life, be the one who says

“Go for it”.

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How many biographies are written that credit the people in their life who discouraged them to consider why they couldn’t/shouldn’t?

No….credit is due to those who believed in them. Who shined light on their strengths. Reminded them that they could.

It’s really important to believe in yourself.

But true evidence of that will be displayed in how you believe in others.

#flashbackfriday post. Originally Posted April 11, 2014

 

Tip Toe

“You see the heart and soul of someone in times of adversity”
I heard that quote the other day, and have been thinking a lot about it. I wanna help people, I want to have friends, and I want people to like me….you know, what most normal girls want. We are nurtures, almost to a fault.
If I focused solely on these desires (helping, having friends, people liking me) it would wear me down.

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Although its not bad to want these things, they can put you in a position where you will sacrifice your authentic self to please someone else. If you have to explain yourself and defend yourself constantly, if you are the only one who has to maintain a relationship, it might be time to mosey on down the road.

You see someone’s true level of commitment to you, someone’s “heart and soul” in the times of adversity, when things aren’t as “fun” or easy…
Don’t surround yourself with people you have to tiptoe around. And don’t make people feel like they have to tip toe around you. Everyone has a bad day, but if its a consistent problem- you have to be honest about what the true source of insecurity is coming from. And that’s hard for us gals to admit. It might NOT be your friends fault…it might simply be your insecurity.
Give people the benefit of the doubt. And surround yourself with people who give YOU the benefit of the doubt, and don’t make you tip toe.

Its okay to quit.

You have to have a true passion for what you do.

You cannot force passion.

You may feel pressured to be this or that because someone next to you is succeeding and seems happy in what they are doing. But it just doesn’t do the same for you.

You may feel pressured to see something out because you are afraid of doing something different or new,  or you are scared of admitting something didn’t work.

Is it worth being miserable though? Is it worth spending your ENTIRE life doing something…that you are not passionate about?

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You know the difference.  Work is hard either way. We have to stick things out and see them through either way.

But why not do something you WANT to?

Its so important to be fully inlove with what you do. Doesn’t mean its easy…but its rewarding.

Fight for what you want. We have one short life, and tomorrow is never guaranteed. Don’t spend your precious minutes on anything less than what you are truly passionate about.

Its okay to quit sometimes, if you are choosing something better.