If you think of all the reasons you shouldn’t, you never will. There are too many logical reasons why you shouldn’t venture out and pursue the life you want. The number one reason: You are going to look a little crazy. First of all I don’t think most people pay as much attention to us as we may think. And the ones that do……if they weren’t critiquing you, they would be critiquing someone else. Its what they do, it helps them feel warm and fuzzy inside. Be glad you could be of service. Intelligence is often measured through abstract reasoning/thought. When you think in abstract ways you move beyond the “here and now”….and are able to draw something more to a situation. You think creatively. You see different methods and more options. You are not limited. Some people call this crazy. I call it genius. Moving beyond whats expected and willing to put yourself out there a little. Its not just enough to have a talent, or great ideas…you have to do something. You have to BE a little crazy instead of just think a little crazy. They may laugh at first…but later they will be asking what your secret is. You will have to tell them its ….”being a little crazy”.
I get up early. A lot of people think this comes naturally for me. But it doesn’t.
But that’s not what this post is about.
This post is about that early morning conversation that I have with myself that I cannot trust. The one that says, “oh just this one time it doesn’t matter….” or “Go ahead…you deserve to sleep in…you had a long night”. Never trust your early morning logic.
When things are hard, when emotions are intense…that’s not the best time to make a decision.
- When you are in middle of your workout, that’s not the time to decide how long you will work out.
- When you are in middle of a fight that is not the time to label your relationship.
- When you just lost a client, or had a slow week, that’s not the time to decide the fate of your business.
Know what you stand for. Put it in writing. And do not waiver from what you decide when things get hard. When you are in middle of the “hard part” (waking up, working out, loving someone, serving, etc) you will tend to compromise.
Do not listen to that “early morning logic” it will tell you to do whats easy, not whats right.
*Flashback Friday * Originally Posted on June 9, 2014
“Within a moment there is monumental potential. That is the mystery of a moment. It is small enough to ignore and big enough to change your life forever”
-Erwin Raphael McManus (Seizing your Divine Moment)
It’s easy to think that what you do today doesn’t matter. You can skip the gym this one time.You can not put forth the effort and take “an easy day” (just this once). You can ignore…..just for a minute what is inside of you to do.
But today matters.
There are repercussions for the little things, not just the big ones. Your day today, has monumental potential. You will sell yourself short of the end goal if you do not value and place emphasis on the small steps that it takes to get there.
Flashback Friday: Originally Posted on May 23, 2014
I feel like everywhere I turn there are woman protesting how “strong they are” and how much they “don’t need men”. A lot of these gals call themselves “feminists”…but to me they are the furthest thing from. They are not promoting equality. They are promoting superiority.
-This post may not be my most popular-
Thou hath been warned;))
I don’t see how celebrating your gender, and believing in your own strengths and ability would detour you from actually……being female. Its like saying you are proud to be an American and detest everything patriotic.
Their logic is, “We are strong…so treat us like a man”. If women are really strong, why not treat us like women?
They also say…….”Men, we don’t need you, we can do your job for you”.
Nope. We can’t. We need men to stand up…and be there for their families, to take charge, and be real men. Not these passive, children abandoners that we have created. We emasculate them and then complain that there are no good men in the world
…..how could there be?
If you are truly for women, you would capitalize on the unique strengths given specifically to women. No, this isn’t always staying at home with an apron (although there is NOTHING wrong with that). This could be being a CEO, or an artist, or a politician. Its not that we cant be something…its our attitude getting there that sucks.
There is nothing wrong with a man holding a door open for you. Its called being a gentleman. We have men raping, verbally abusing, beating women….and the few who have enough honor and respect to open doors and treat a woman like a lady…we take offense to that?
And a man SHOULD help move and carry things. Could we do it? Yes….but that’s their way of honoring us, not putting us down. In a world where men are getting lazier and lazier… we should celebrate the men who take that initiative, instead of putting them down.
And being nice to men, and admitting that we need them is not being weak….its called being a decent human being.
So its not a question of “can’t”…its a question of honor and respect. We want men to honor and respect us. Sure, we should. But if our respect only comes at the expense of disrespecting them….we are actually showing how weak we are, not how strong. Its like a bully on the playground who can only get their power from weakening others.
You do not become stronger by tearing men down. And constantly doing so, and constantly letting them know how much you don’t “need them”…is showing how insecure you really are.
We do need them. And they need us.
I’m tired of dads leaving their kids. I am tired of men not having jobs, and no passion for their life. Its not all the women’s fault……but we do have a share in it. And finally……
As women there is nothing wrong with nurturing, loving, and caring. Why do we not see that as powerful and strong? Is that ALL we are? No. But why are those characteristics see as shameful?
Having the ability to completely transform the hearts and souls of those around us through our intuition and insight…is that not powerful? Having the ability to extend grace and show passion through our words and our demeanor…..is that not strong? Men don’t have those gifts.
So, no. I don’t want to be a man.
I like being a woman. I like my unique contributions to this world, and I believe embracing that instead of shunning it is what a true “feminist” should be.
I don’t know if anyone has noticed….but I am kind of driven.
I love medieval war movies and think it would be awesome to conquer the world some how.
I’m still working on the details for that one.
Although I do not want to change who I am (I believe I am this way or a reason). I want to make sure that I maintain balance and remember why I want to do certain things.
The whole point of it all is to place love and value on people.
And hopefully make a difference in someone’s life.
It’s easy to say that “one day” when I have millions I will give millions.
But as thousands slip through our hands throughout the year are we still giving?
“When things slow down I would love to volunteer somewhere, …to serve”
When will things slow down? When we retire?
It’s good to want to do big things, I defiantly want to. But “big” things are made up of a whole lot of little things. Am I loving the person right in front of me….right now?
Am I giving when I see a need? Right now?
We are not guaranteed tomorrow. Do not wait to become who you want to be. Be faithful in the little now, place value in this moment, with these people….right in front of you.
I read this this morning,
“You may want to know your calling. Let this be your call: comfort a sad woman. Comfort a mourning child. Comfort a dying man. Comfort.” -Heidi Baker
Although I hope to one day do big great things, I have to remember all the great “little” things now. I believe that these little things heaven rejoices over and brings true glory to Jesus.
Flash Black Friday: Originally Posted on June 2, 2014
Perfect Love Drives Out Fear. @1john4:18
When faced with fear sometimes I feel like I have to find enough will power to fight it on my own. Like I need to try harder….face fear…and hopefully win the fight.
If we sought love…perfect love in our lives….fear would run.
It would hide.
It would be cast out.
See we don’t have to fight fear with our bear hands. We need to walk in the perfect love that comes only from God.
Fear is the opposite with Love. If we have a problem with fear…we are having a problem with Love. Seek it out. Fear will flee.
It can be annoying at times, especially when you have to clean up after them.
But more than anything I admire it.
Nothing is off limits. The world is theirs.
If someone tells them no, they may cry for a minute, but soon they will be into something else.
Somewhere along the way as adults we loose that curiosity.
We lost the resolve to explore and conquer no matter what the costs.
If someone tells us “no”
We don’t cry and try something else.
We cry and never try anything else.
We become stagnant. And bitter.
My biggest fear (truly) is to one day be an old lady and look back wondering
why I didn’t do more….
why I didn’t take chance….
why I didn’t explore the world a little more.
Its okay to make mistakes.
Its okay to fail/fall/mess up/screw up/ rip up…………..you get the point.
Kill the “What ifs”
(Flashback Friday- Originally Posted on March 31, 2014)