Some people say fear isn’t real. That’s not true. Anyone who has experienced true fear knows that its tangible….and pretty real. Its an outside force that can literally cripple people.
Fear leads us to do crazy things. It gets a wrap for all the things it keeps us from (like pursuing this or that) but it also causes us to do things as well.
Like control situations or people. Or arrange our entire lives in a predictable manner that cushions us from any unexpected blows. We cover our ears and refuse to explore new thoughts, or learn anything new, or expand our social circle….because that pushes us far out of our comfort zone. We wouldn’t be in control then- and that would be pretty scary.
Researchers are now studying the plasticity of our brains and discovering that we shape and mold who we are (literally!) by what stimulus we are continually exposed to. The more we focus on something, the stronger our neurological “connection” in our mind to that thing becomes. If we are constantly focusing on what we fear, it literally becomes our reality. Our brain knows nothing different. We have built our mind, physically to become fearful, and except no other truth.
We make “positive thoughts” into this cute little, half-creepy, sugar pill…when in reality it is literal science. Real. Physiological.
What does all this mean? It means that yes….fear is real. But- we have control over it. If we are deliberate. Don’t be a weirdo and walk around humming to the Universe.
But recognize fear when it comes.
It delivers the message of “cant” (inability, unworthiness, etc). It constantly asks “why?” (not in a good way….but a whyshouldyoudothatyousuck kinda way).
It causes you to not trust…other people.. or yourself.
You choose who you become. Literally. Quit blaming others. We have all been through our own personal versions of hell- but we do not have to live in those places forever.
Read a book, and learn. Step out.
Discover what you are capable of doing, and like Jon Acuff says “Punch Fear in the Face”