I’m not sure if you have noticed lately.
But there is a widening generational gap.
Not only are people different in age…but its like they come from different worlds….
All the bells and whistles that come with the year 2014
make it seem like we (younger people) are so much different than you old folks.
Its not true.
I believe technology has just publicly announced what has been going on for hundreds of years. These new “struggles” that this younger generation is dealing with are not “new” its just now out in the open.
Back in the “day” it was just hidden better. People whispered….or kept it to themselves. Now we take pictures of it and put it on Instagram.
So with the bells and whistles….older people think the younger are so different. When really….deep down….we just make you guys feel uncomfortable.
And you distance yourselves.
And we get worse. And crazier. And louder.
If you would consider yourself older than me… Please listen.
There are some things you need to know.
1. The younger folks need you.
No not for money. Put your wallets away. I’m talking about something deeper, something you cannot buy.
Just being there. In fact, speeches turn us off. So you don’t need to feel pressured to say the right thing. In fact we don’t want to hear something perfect. Why do you think we abbreviate everything? Because words are cheap to us. Just BE there. Literally.
2. The less “perfect” you are….the better.
I once asked an older lady I admired if she would meet with me regularly over coffee. Call it a “mentor”….whatever. I just wanted to be around her and learn from her. Her response was that she had things she need to “work on” in her life and wasn’t “ready” to have a relationship with me. I am not mad at that lady. It just made me sad, because little did she know that her honestly about her imperfection could have changed my life.
See we admire you when you admit your mistakes….
it frees us to feel like we can share ours.
Sometimes we feel like what we deal with is “new” or “weird”. If you would be brave enough to share your story…you could change our lives.
3. You don’t have to have all the answers.
Again, young people are NOT looking for speeches and opinions…we are looking for someone to just be themselves around us. See most of us grew up in broken homes, some without moms and dads. Just living life around older people is all we need. We need to be around older people who aren’t scared of us.
We aren’t scary.
4. You don’t have to be cool.
Is that a relief? In fact the younger people need to know what human contact is. What a healthy relationship looks like. We are desperate for it. We need to know what things in life lasts through generations, not just be educated on new fads.
Technology changes.People don’t.
We are looking for relationships….not more illusions.
5. Let us be us…. And please just be you.
The issue isn’t understanding our differences.
The goal is to find our common ground.
That’s all that matters. That would mean the world to us.
So...if you are old(er) please make an effort. Quit being afraid and holding on to your pride. Step up to the plate and help. There are thousands of fatherless motherless young people out your door.
You have the ability to change their lives if you choose to do so.
If you are a young person…don’t give up on finding that “role model”. Dad may have left…Mom may be crazy….but there is someone out there willing to listen. Keep searching. It will be worth it.